Body Language

How to Read Her Body Language

Do you want to have a distinct advantage over your prey? Over your competition? Of course you do. Almost every man on earth does NOT get it when it comes to picking up women. Some of us play the numbers and get rejected by 19 women and get 1. The rest of us are too afraid of rejection and don't even try.

Let's face it, women speak and think a different language. I'm gonna show you how translate that language, by reading her body language. You'll be able to see if she's interested, if you're making progress, and what you can do to make her interested. You've seen it a dozen times - some "smooth" guy walks up to a girl at a bar, she's facing away from him and keeps looking at her friend. She's showing no signs of interest at all. Meanwhile, he's being overly aggressive, talking loud, and cracking lame jokes. After you read this guide you'll now notice it hundreds of times. I'll get you brushed up on your game, show you the basics of body language, and in no time you'll know how to close the deal.

Her lips:

• Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
• Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.
• She wets and/or licks her lips,
• She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
• She "pouts" her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:

• She stares directly in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
• She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some sort of eye contact.
• She winks at you while talking to you or from a distance.
• While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
• Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:

• She is tossing her hair back off her shoulders.
• She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
• She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.

Her clothing:

• If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
• The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
• She is fixing, straightening or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.

While she is seated:

• She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
• She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
• Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
• She is sitting with her legs open.
• Her legs are rubbing against each other.
• Her toes are faced inward pointing towards you (pigeon toed).
• She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her upper thigh.
• Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Use of her hands:

• While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
• She rubs her wrists up and down.
• She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way:)
• She is playing with her keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with things on the table.
• She plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
• She sits with one hand slightly touching one of her breasts.
• She brushes or touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you
• She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
• She is pretending to look at her watch as you walk by her.

Her voice:

• She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
• In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention towards you.
• She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
• She laughs in unison with you.

What else is she doing:

• She mirrors your body language and body positions.
• Her skin tone becomes reddish while being around you.
• She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
• She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school.
• She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
• At a party or bar - she will keep appearing.  For example, at a crowded bar she will appear next to you to order her drink.  HINT: If you're looking to hook up with her, don't buy her the drink - check out a seduction guide like Dating Insider to learn why.

When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:

• Can you keep conversation going with her?
• Does she laugh?
• Does she touch you?

In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we're a bit apprehensive and may be nervous. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening up to you and what you have to offer.

It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.  Good luck!

If you want to learn more about approaching women try these sites - LoveCentria, Dating Insider, and Attract Women Now.